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How Ignorant was this Guy About Pagans?

Earlier this week I was riding on a bus and this guy asked me if I was Christian, I said, "No". He then asked if I believe in God, I replied, "I believe in the Goddess" (I'm a Dianic Pagan). I had to say that several times because he kept saying, "In God?".

"You don't believe in God?"

"I believe in the Goddess" I'm a pagan (of course, there are different kinds of paganism).

He turned around to the other passengers and went on about there has to be a God because of this and this and this.

How ignorant was this guy being? Is it just me or did he assume I'm an atheist, not there is anything wrong with being atheist?

Before he got off the bus he said he reads a lot (I wonder if he really does).

New Yr's Resolutions.....

I know. It’s not even Samhain ;>! One thing I’ve learned is that to get them to Work, you have to plan ahead so……
What I do is decide what I want to do before Samhain. I usually plan a Mundane and a Metaphysical project. After Samhain I “testdrive” them; see if they are feasible. If they are, I go full bore after New Years.
This yr I might just start after the Celtic New Year because for at least the Metaphysical projects they are reoccurring ones. The 1st is Runestaves. I 1st started in the mid 80’s. The last was the early 00’s. The 2nd is Old English, which I studied in the 00’s as well(previous languages were Old Norse and Irish Gaelic). I have all I need for the Runewerk; all the Runepoems in Origin al Languages as well as mult translations, classes taken and notes kept on both classes, workshoppes and Meditations ON. For OE, I’m adding textbooks that weren’t available to me last time thanks to the expansion of the internet.
The Mundane project(s) are mainly dealing with my new “Learning Experience”, Type 2 Diabetes. Luckily, I’m still at the pill stage and would like to stay that way as long as possible(I managed “prediabetic” for almost a decade). Thankfully, being a bit of a “Foodie” as well as cook I’m functional in a number of cuisines, most of which tend to have lower Diabetes than Western European/American. Actually, the biggest problem I see is breaking a half century habit of cereal for breakfast;>!
So, do you all have any cooking?
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Finding a New Home Spell Question

I want to do a finding a new home spell but many of those spells having directions about pictures and/or ads for homes. Are pictures and/or ads for homes neccessary? Is visualization of the home and/or giving an ASL/PSE/verbal discription of the home enough?

Can I do the spell without a pic/ad?
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FTM/Genderqueer May Basket W/O Flowers Question

May Eve is coming and I'm looking for ideas for a May Basket that isn't centered on flowers because of my ftm /genderqueer identity (I worry that if my mom sees flowers it might give her a "green light" to start getting me unwanted feminine clothes, jewlery, etc.) Are there alternatives to flowers to create a men's May basket?

I asked this question elsewhere and got a smart-ass answer. :(


Like most Pagans, my altar isn’t “minimalist”;>! As I was finishing my daily Work, I had a thought. What were the 3 most unusual items on it?
On mine:
A corn dolly that was actually the doll my matrilineal grandmother played with when she was a little girl.
A small bowl of Beads the size of Almonds made of Meteoric Iron.
An Antique necklace of Amber beads(pre Civil War from Scandinavia).

So…What’s yours;>?
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Being Solitary, Solitary;>.....

Is something most of us know quite well. Even when we're part of a group, unless it's a glbt one,usually we're one IN a group of others. And unfortunately for me, the older I got both in my Chronological age and along my Path I found that position unpalatable.
I know, the Pagan community in general is Accepting of us but honestly, a lot of it is more Tolerance....which is a totally different thing. As time went by, I found just being Tolerated unsatisfying. It really hit home when I met Chuck. It was weird because our community gave us a great Handfasting but once the excitement was over, things got awkward with some guys(none of the women changed btw). I thing it was because a Solitary Gay guy being Gay is academic; after all, we're just guys? Right;>? Two Gay Guys in a committed relationship, in Love is no longer so...and "stuff" some guys hadn't really worked on come to the forfront. And not every guy is big on Introspection;>!
So, after a while we moved across the country and joined our local community which actually had a fairly fair sized Gay contingency. Problem was, as anyone whose been on their Path more than a few yrs knows,not all Pagan Ways are compatible. Truthfully, to this day I don't know which is more uncomfortable, being a minority in a group of the same Path or being part of a group with many Gays(no Lesbians or thos Identifying as other than Het)but those with Ways incompatible. So, for the last few yrs I've gone Solitary, Solitary. The pluses is that I no longer have to worry about disturbing fellow members with my "Gayness" or my "Heathen-ness". I no longer have to "deal" with folks "correcting" my Beliefs. The Negatives are that you no longer have others to help you with problems both Emotional and Metaphysical. 'Course, since my local community for the most part wasn't(the only one that was moved a couple yrs later), it wasn't that big of one.
The biggest help most groups give it to keep you Focused on the Path, not idstracted by "shiney objects". Over the yrs those I've found who Grow the most as a Solitary are those that can keep Focused even when there's no one around to make them. By yourself it's too easy to Procrastinate until you wake up one day and realise you've basically done "zip" for months, if not an entire yr!
Making being Solitary Work is actually harder than being part of even a disfunctional group for most. But the Rewards are actually greater. After all, all acomplishments are YOURS;>
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Looking for someone to preform a queer Wiccan handfasting in Minneapolis, Minnesota

I am a solitary practitioner who will be getting handfasted to my partner on June 1st, 2012.  Our problem is that, as a solitary, I do not have someone to perform this act.  I'm looking for someone who is queer friendly, local, and willing to perform at a sliding scale. I'm a social worker who works in children's mental health (which doesn't pay that great) and we are trying to do the whole event for $500.  We are happy to do most of the work, and as it is queer in nature, it doesn't even need to be someone with an official minister license. 

Please contact me if your interested in helping or know someone who might be. 


Atheists Pu-LEEZ!

I Understand where most are coming from but I do get tired of the YHVH or No Way Attitude. If old “Sand and Fire” isn’t for you…Great. We Understand but don’t lump us in with the reasons you don’t Believe that there are ANY Spiritual Entities out there. Yes, the Bible is frequently Wrong Scientifically and Ethically but it’s Inaccuracies don’t negate the Experiences of EVERY non-JCI Person of Faith on the planet(or possibly beyond;>). I’m NOT an Atheist. Yes, I don’t Follow YHVH in whatever religion He’s being Followed in. I don’t deny He Exists either. I just have no Interest IN Him….just like the MAJORITY of Deities on Earth. I’m a Heathen. I Follow those of my pre-C Ancestors. I am not “Free of Belief”. I’m “Free to Believe” as my Ancestors were before the Coming of the Bloody “Prince of Peace”….
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